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		<title>How The Internet Has Single Handedly Ruined Relationships! A Guest Post</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I know my regular posting schedule has been way off, and it might stay that way, but rest assured-I am NOT going anywhere. Except to WordPress, booyah. Anyways, during last week&#8217;s nonsense, so many of you kindly sent emails that I am still replying to, and one was from one of my favorite bloggers The [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">I know my regular posting schedule has been way off, and it might stay that way, but rest assured-</span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">I am NOT going anywhere.</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> Except to WordPress, booyah.  Anyways, during last week&#8217;s nonsense, so many of you kindly sent emails that I am still replying to, and one was from one of my favorite bloggers </span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><b><a href="http://novelistabarista.blogspot.com/">The Novelista Barista</a></b></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">, offering to write something for me because she knew I was having a rough time. Plus, the subject she was hoping to write about is something I am A) Dealing with and B) Can&#8217;t really talk about, ugh dating. But she can, and she did&#8230;and I adore this post.</p>
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<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">You know it has.<br />You have seen it happen.<br />It probably happened to you.</span><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_ewPvJDdFYvg/S05eCgo-R1I/AAAAAAAACUg/W4fN5a4m96o/s1600-h/novelista.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 223px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_ewPvJDdFYvg/S05eCgo-R1I/AAAAAAAACUg/W4fN5a4m96o/s400/novelista.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5426377998242563922" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">There is no denying that facebook, myspace, linked in, blogs are ruining relationships. You are basically cyber-relationship screwed. Facebook has destroyed serious relationships for many close friends of mine. How you ask? (or this might have already happened to you!)</p>
<p>Well let&#8217;s start with the stalker wall feed that they have. Everyone, regardless of if you want them to know or not, can see everything that you do on facebook in their wall feed, without even having to blink their eyes, it appears before them. So if you boyfriend is friends with you on facebook and some guy you hooked up with before him hits you up on facebook before you have a chance to delete the wall post, the BOYFRIEND is going to see it because facebook wants you to break up! And now what sort of problems does that bring to your relationship?</p>
<p></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="color:#000099;"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">guy-&#8221;Why is that guy hitting you up on facebook?&#8221;</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="color:#FF0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">girl- We dont even talk anymore, I dont know!</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="color:#000099;"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">guy- You must have written something on his wall or sent him a message, show me his wall!</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); ">girl- I am not showing you his wall! That is ridiculous, I dont know why he contacted me!</span><br /></span>
<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-size:large;">Ending: Big huge fight.</span></span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"></p>
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<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">And that goes both ways. It very well happens as women, we tend to get jealous of other girls, especially on someone we are datings facebook or myspace page. If you aren&#8217;t necessarily friends with them, you wonder why they are writing to your boyfriend &#8220;just wanted to say hi!&#8221;. Although the boyfriend cannot control this, you still get angry and fight it out until he either </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">A)</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">removes her from his facebook and blocks all contact with her </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">B)</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> you send her a message on facebook telling her to stay the F away from him, or</span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> C)</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> Break up because you will never move past this point in your relationship again.</p>
<p>The worst part after the wall writing would be </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">the tagging of the photos.</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> This is the danger zone and sometimes when people tag you, they don&#8217;t even realize that they just planted a bomb right in the middle of your relationship that is just ticking waiting for the other to see this said tagged picture.</p>
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<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">This picture, could be you doing absolutely nothing, but if you are in another picture with the opposite sex and it is not your BEST friend, prepare for some sort of jealousy. Granted not everyone is as jealous as others but it is still not the favored topic of conversation.<br />Now take for instance how the internet has changed dating people you have never met. With the help of </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">Match.com, Eharmony.com, Jdate.com</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">; you can see what people look like and know everything about them even before you meet them!</p>
<p>I mean, blind dating? I don&#8217;t think so!!! If you don&#8217;t have a </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">facebook, myspace, twitter, blog or something</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">.. basically you don&#8217;t exist. Then you check to see if you can see anything on their page, and if not, you try another network. It is a crazy, easily informed era we have going on here. And I am most definitely a huge part of it.</p>
<p>Even when I am looking for employers I facebook the company to see if anyone actually does work there or not. That&#8217;s usually how I know if I should even bother to consider applying completely for the position. And then LinkedIn? PAH&#8230;. Before going on a job interview, you can linkedin &amp; facebook stalk the employees of who you&#8217;re meeting with and know where they worked, where they graduated from college and what they do at their job even before you meet them! It is sort of crazy if you think about it.</p>
<p>So lastly (because I could go on for hours about how many of my friends relationships have had drama due to facebook!), you take our blogs. This is the place where you can write whatever you want and you can pick and choose who you want to read the material (telling your friends or people you know). I have chosen to tell only a select few due to the fact that I still need to write about things that are happening in my life and I can&#8217;t write about the people who are READING my blog!!! An example&#8211; my ex-boyfriend, T, (you can read ALL about him </span><a href="http://novelistabarista.blogspot.com/2009/11/broken-heart-files-t-and-i.html"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">HERE</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">) he never knew that I had a blog. Granted we were on the outs and that was the only way that I could write about how I was really feeling, but oh my god, if he ever read how I really felt, he would have had a heart attack.</p>
<p>I love social networking, really. I don&#8217;t even know how we communicated with people.. I guess beepers were the &#8220;text messages&#8221; of the 90s and AIM was the google chat of the 90s. But facebook? AOL profiles had NOTHING on facebook!</p>
<p>Even though it has ruined our lives, ruined our friendships, our relationships and ruined our privacy, millions of people still continue to love social networking every single day. And as we love it more and more&#8230; the internet is determined to keep ruining our relationships, every wall update at a time.</p>
<p><b>Thanks love! </b></span></div>
<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><b>How do you guys feel? For me, I&#8217;m thinking of unlinking my blog and my FB. I have a mild to moderate panic attack when a guy I&#8217;m just starting to get to know finds my blog, and I stress over the things guys write on my FB wall.  She&#8217;s right! There is NO such thing as blind dating anymore! It&#8217;s like the email I just sent her telling her I was about to post-</b></span></div>
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<div><i><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">&#8220;Hey honey, going to post early. Going out with a guy I can&#8217;t blog about tonight.&#8221; <img src='http://www.itsunbeweavable.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </span></i></div>
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<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">Also? <b>HAPPY BIRTHDAY </b></span><a href="http://theoffbeatreport.com/wordpress/"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><b>LAUREN</b></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"><b>. I adore you!!</b></span></div>
<div><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">And? The WiNK Tee Giveaway is </span><a href="http://www.itsunbeweavable.com/2010/01/i-had-good-weekend-now-im-having.html"><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;">here</span></a><span class="Apple-style-span"  style="font-family:arial;"> til Friday.</span></div>
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