Alternative title-Well, this is awkward.
I’ve never really had to think about making friends. Before you roll your eyes, no it’s not because I’ve always been so oh my god popular! It’s because I was born with a built in best friend, a twin sister. From the jump, I’ve had someone to talk to, someone to relate to and experience life with.
And then, yeah, I’ve been pretty lucky in the friend department
Until now.
I’m sure my sister and friends who are reading this right now are like ummm…hi? But here’s the thing. I have friends all over the world…the girls I count as my best friends are in Southern Cali, Vegas, Arizona, Canada…but I’m in a new city where I don’t know a soul, and there’s really no fancy way to say it…I’m lonely, you guys. I visit home a lot and see my girls and my sister, and I know that where we are living right now is temporary, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t missing something.
I miss random chats at the Coffee Bean. I miss frantic last minute shopping trips when one of us just needs to buy something because…well, just because. I miss late night frozen yogurt runs with my sister. I miss gym dates, yoga dates and I miss movie nights where we’d drink wine and talk too much to possibly pay attention to the movie.
I miss face to face, in real life, laughing til you cry friendship. And even though our living situation is temporary, I want to make the most of it. Just because something is temporary doesn’t mean it’s not important, I mean hello, LIFE is temporary.
Now, ya’ll know that I adore my boyfriend. That when it comes down to it, he’s my bestest bestest friend. He’s great…he tries to fill in for the lack of girl time I’ve had lately, bless his lil heart. But I know he could give two shits about the Bachelor and if false lashes are in fact appropriate during the day (I’m still on the fence). Plus, I like to obsess about things a lot, it’s quite the hobby of mine and he just wasn’t born with that gene. I need an obsess-er buddy!
No matter how fantastic he is, a girl needs more than just her guy. And I know that it starts with me-I know that I need to get out there, that I need show up at the yoga studio with a smile on my face and be open. It’s just a little weird to be looking for friends at this stage of my life, you know? I feel like a creeper…like they’ll think I’m going to expect them to wear a super stylish promise ring or something…
Why is there not an online dating site for new friends? Oh wait, I think there is. It’s called the internet.
I mean, I hope you didn’t come here looking for answers, because I really don’t know. What I do know though is this experience is making me appreciate my dear friends a hell of a lot more than I ever have. When I tell them “I can’t wait to see you!” I don’t think they have any idea just how much I mean it.
I really, really mean it.
So for now, I’m holding on to that…to them, no matter how far away we all are from each other. I’m holding on to the girls I can call at all hours of the day, the skype chats that almost almost almost feel like we’re in the same room, and the blessing of knowing that we’re all just a plane ride away. We have an extra bedroom, ladies. 
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We are close in heart and texts….and we are just a drive away right??? You’re not far away from me right???
Because we have a total NON creepy meetup/girls night we need to plan.
Now let’s hold hands and sing, “you’ve got a friend in me.”
xoxo
Aww, Liz! I know exactly how you feel! I’ve been missing girl time too. My friends are so random where I moved..
Girl, I’m with you and I’ve been here 2 1/2 years! I tried meetup.com and met some nice people, but – and let’s just be honest here – I moved to a weird place and it’s pretty hard to meet like-minded people in Sin City. There are a few things I’m going to try before May, though. Gotta find my people before the little girl arrives!
SO excited to see you next month! <3
I thought it was weird to be on a mission to make new friends post-college too, but guess what? Lots of people are doing it! All the *cool* kids are doing it! I can’t imagine what it would be like to move to a new place far from my fam and closest friends — although it’s almost happened. I live 10 minutes from my BFF. However, I felt like I need to branch out, spread my wings, stretch my boundaries. So, I became active in my local Yelp community. Sure, it’s about reviews and finding great local businesses, but it’s also about people. And I’ve made some hella awesome friends from attending events. Give it a shot. I can almost guarantee you’ll love it!
I hear ya, I hate being away from frienda nd not having more people here!
Ah, I can only imagine how sometimes you just REALLY need a girls’ night! I definitely get that feeling too, and a guy can never replace a girls’ group of girls! Anyway, I think you should just move to Canada and then we can hang out
but if you insist on staying where you are, I know you’ll make it work. How about joining some kind of club or group or something? That way you could meet people with the same interests as you!! 
Anyway just a random thing that I’m sure you’ve already thought of, but thought I’d throw it out there anyway.
PS still really jealous that you’re a twin.
Hey! I just found your blog and love it
I’m moving to a new city and was wondering the same thing soooo…I found Meetup.com and there are tons of groups (for anything you can imagine really) that you can meet up with. Seems like a fun way to meet people interested in the same things and if you don’t like em’, skip out! Ha I hope that helps…both of us!
Girlie, you take your haute and fabulous little ass out on the town, to some funky little bar or coffee shop and you just spread your awesomeness around. I’m willing to bet that you’ll soon find another soul friend that will last your lifetime long. I mean, who wouldn’t want to talk to you? Obsess with you? Booze with you? Umm…I’m down.
Miss you hooker!
I know if anyone can make new buds it’s you! You’re so warm and open!
I TOTALLY know what you mean…living in one of the biggest transient cities, DC, I’ve made and lost friends like crazy. My bestie moved several states away and it’s been lonely. My hubs is def my best friend, but a gal needs some estrogen support every once in awhile. I’m ALWAYS up for a Wednesday night wine and bitch night via Skype! <3
I totally feel ya, girl! Moving to SF without having close friends in the city has been an interesting adventure for me! It really tests how “outgoing” I can/need to be. It’s scary though! Sometimes we just needs our best friends!!
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