(Before I get into it-I got my “blojo” (blog mojo haha) back, according to a friend. Thank you for all the sweet emails, comments, twitter-love? twits? huh? For the record, I missed you too!)
I have a lot of expectations. Â Of myself. Â Of others. Â Of things. Â I know some of you may think that if you have no expectations, you will never get let down, and while I get that, I don’t think, for me, it’s a very realistic way to live. Â I like expectations. Â I like standards. Â I expect that if I spend 45 minutes curling my hair…my hair had better be curly.
But see, sometimes life happens and you have to run outside your condo and help your lovely friend find parking, because parking is a total cluster of a nightmare at your house, and you want to help her, and it’s raining. Â And your hair gets wet, and it’s not curly pretty princess hair anymore. Â Sad.
For example.
I expect the brakes in my car to ya know, stop my car. I expect a pair of Paige’s and some 5 inchers to make me feel like a sexy badass, even when I’m convinced I have.nothing.to.wear. and my life is, actually, over.  I expect a venti skinny vanilla latte with a triple shot to perk me up in the mornings, I expect the trackball on my bberry to roll around like it’s supposed to, and while we’re on the subject, I just have to say that I expect way too much from technology in general, but I digress. I expect my birth control to…control and I expect the guy I am using said birth control with to be my best friend too.
Easy, no? What about when you hydroplane and your brakes don’t work? Â What if your birth control fails? (OMG NO I’M NOT PREGNANT) What if you’re still a zombie after even 2 venti’s? Is there anything we can count on? What if it turns out he’s not my best friend and just…some guy?
There are very few things that are for sure. Â I might hydroplane and my brakes might not work. Â I might have on the best jeans ever that make my ass look PHENOMENAL and LOUBIES and still wish I was home in yoga pants and a wife beater. Â Technology will fail us some days-might even drive us to tears when we’re totally pmsing. Â And the guy I wake up next to in the morning might not be my best friend…yet.
One of my nearest and dearest said this tonight (and made me that cute picture) when I told her what I was writing about-“Expectations are sorta like mini little hopes and prayers.” So with that, I hope and pray that our cars keep us safe, and our phones, computers and birth controls do their respective jobs (or not, if that’s what you want!). Â I hope and pray that the next guy I fall asleep with is my best friend, and he’ll definitely think a wife beater and yoga pants is just as sexy as jeans and stilettos…most of the time.
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Someone’s got their “blojo” back. Hehehehehhehe.
I LOVE this one.
Speaking of expectations. I have many of my own, for YOUR weekend coming up. Fingers and toes crossed.
I love this post… it’s normal to have expectations. I do expect a lot but I also developed this habit to just laugh at my failed expectations. Life goes on…
Lizzy Marie, can you post more frequently… I’m always missing you girl. xoxo
Expectations can be good and bad. You expect to much you may be let down a lot. You expect to little, you may feel like you are missing something. I’ll always think your white tee and yoga pants are sexy. That’s because you always meet my expectations.
I agree- expectations is having a little faith- a little faith when you are going at a green light, the others at the red light will stop, your email won’t crash, your friends being there. Even when the expectations aren’t met, life goes on.
Blojo? oh gosh. it just sounds so wrong, haha!
Hey
The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time. I’m learning to not expect so much of me, but rather to just LIVE IN THE MOMENT. For it’s the moments that we remember the most. So I say, ….Expect nothing, live frugally on surprise. I actually did a blog post on this today. Love the blog, I’m following. enjoy your night!
Aww this is so inspirational, haha! you’re posts always are! P.S. ou’re like always sexy!!
Expections…I expect a whole hell of a lot from my coffee in the morning(I drink the same thing as you, Love, only mine is tall tripple shot) and I expect the mascara I buy to do everything it promised me–you know the drill, Longer, fuller, thicker, blacker lashes. I expect to do my very best and feel let down when people do try their best for me. Mostly I expect too much and sadly people tend to be tiny lets downs…but I still keep on expecting. Like you said, hope and pray that our expections come to pass.
I love you blog Dear, almost as much as I heart you!
I hope all is going well with your boys right now.
I love you, love you, love you Lizzy! This post only reaffirms that notion!
I think as long as we can accept that sometimes people or situations don’t meet our expectations, we will be just fine. Because we know that we held ourselves and others to a certain standard. Not sure if that makes any sense – perhaps I am the one who needs a venti latte STAT. But I love your outlook and yes, your “blojo” is en FUEGO. Hmm, that sounds weird…heart you!
I like you.
THATS WHAT WHAT.
Oh, love, how I have missed your wonderful posts. Thanks for sharing this. You are so eloquent and well spoken here. Life has been very unpredictable for me in the last few months, and I keep telling myseld that it’s all a lesson in patience and expectations. Some days this lesson is easier to remember than others, but I’m hoping that if I can learn it now, it will help me later in life. Glad to have you back.
Ahh you say things so well honey. Really we all think the same and relate to this I’m sure. Thanks for being you and sharing with us
xoxo
“twits” you make me laugh
Hi Hon!
I’ve missed you! Finally making my rounds and catching up…and what a perfect post to start my evening with! Ahhhh, yes, the expectations. Boy, do I have them! lots of them, and rarely are they met, but in the end, I always realize that it’s not really that important as long as I am still smiling when I wake up and when I go to sleep. All that stuff in-between is just filler, non?! It’s the little simple things that we REALLY need to make us complete that matters most. And usually, expectations can’t even be put on them.
Bisous,
Melissa
Yea – wtf is up with the rollerball on my bb?!? This is making me pull my hair out!!
I want to see pics of your gorgeous curls
Blojo, haha, that is freaking awesome!
You are just a sweetheart! I’ll run out and ruin my hair for you too lady!
Great to see you’ve got your blogjo back!!!
cute post!
i was reading real quickly and for a sec i confused blojo with blowjob LMAO hahahaha
Loll but yeah, i cant do without having expectations either
does it count when my best friend who I wake up to drives me to tears when I’m pmsing… like… TONIGHT?!?!
expectations are good. it gives you passion… and reminds us that life is, indeed… not perfect. and that’s ok.
love you. xox
Expectations are good. You set some standards for yourself and for others. People who say not to set any expectations can suck it. Of course it helps to act gracefully if expectations aren’t met. Glad you have your ‘blojo’ back!
so glad you’re posting again! Expectations can sometimes be important but don’t let them dictate who you are or what you want to do. Just be you
sah so good your back, loved that post, I have a lot of expectations – sometimes even to much but I have an expectation of life, so I need all the small ones to fill the big one, right?! and how was vegas????
Having expectations in life is very important I think. They motivate you. ;p
I loved this post. I feel I’m like you with having expectations – oftentimes I’m told I have too many. But I enjoyed this, and agree.
I can’t imagine you looking foul in Anything. It is good to see you doing your thing again, talking about beauty and problems and hopes. Love you.
I love this post!
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I have a lot of expectations…so I better get praying and hoping!
Or, maybe I should have less expectations…
I will think about it!
I’ve been in such a slump and not feeling content with anything in my life and this helped.
yes. true. we expect things but often don’t what we expect. not to say that is a bag thing at all but for the most part it is. live it like its your last, baby!!
You might have made me tear… just a little. The only thing better than expectations is living up to them and being able to say you’re proud of what you’ve accomplished.
i love me some blojo
and your guy is your guy if he says you look nice on the day you didn’t even try.
One of my all time favorite posts of yours. Love you!
I really needed to be reminded of this today. Around this time last year, I wento a Buddhist meditation seminar for a few weeks. At the time, I thought converting to Buddhism was thing for me…it didn’t pan out that way. Can you imagine a Dominican Buddhist anyways??! Lol! Ok…back to the topic in hand. The teacher explained to the class that for Buddhists, happiness can be achieved by having a peaceful mind. When you have unexamined expectations of the outside world (factors one cannot control), it is easy to become resentful and disappointed when those expectations are not met, leading to a “not-so-happy” mind. Acceptance isn’t something that happens all at once either, it’s a circular process. I still have days were things don’t go as I expected, but I have to remind myself that I have no control over it, I can only try to make the best of it. Anyways, just thought I’d share a different perspective
) Nice to see you back in full force!
i am slowly but surely trying to curb my expectations to be obtainable, while also not lowering my standards. it’s a tough balance, i’m finding. le sigh.
I like that quote..it’s so true. Lately, I am having no expectations for things, so that I can’t be let down and can only be “let up!”
<3 and i didn't think for a second that you had lost your blojo….you give the best blojos in town:)
And I will get my hair wet any day of the week for you, because you’re GLORIOUS and I love you.
you really are a girl after my own heart! you say all the things that I think everyday.
Try not to let all your expectations get in the way of your opportunity to make things what you want them to be.
XoXoX
<3 Landy
ok. i’m not trying to rain on ur parade cuz u know i adore u mama. but i’m a bitter bitch and cynical w/the best of them…i find i’m always disappointed by expectations. so i try not to have them or at least suppress them. i know…i need help. haha
I’m there with you A LOT of the time mama…and I’m glad we have each other, no matter how bitter and cynical the mafia is…hahaha
It seems like everyone is always *trying* to get rid of their expectations because of the disappointment thing, but if you’re never disappointed you’ll also never be impressed. They’ll never go away and YOU’RE RIGHT they’re not always bad because you SHOULD expect things sometimes because otherwise what’s the point? And I needed to hear this today, too, so thank you. And you’re pretty. And speaking of pretty, my friend made up this rumor when I got to college that my uncle invented Pretty, Pretty Princess and the girl on the box was me. And everyone believed it. Some people STILL believe it. So you can be pretty princess whenever you want! Even if your curly hair got un-curly in the stupid rain
man Liz..you are such a great writer! i can’t tell you how much i LOVED this post. i loved every little bit of it. and i agree with your friend that expecations are like little hopes and prayers. so true! i love you and am so happy you have your “blojo” back even though i felt you never lost it!! have a lovely day girl!
Oh my god, right now I’m wearing yoga pants and a wifebeater and I think I am damn.fucking.sexy.
True dat, haha. I couldn’t agree with you more. I believe there’s a book with a title that fits this post, you may have heard of it…Great Expectations? Haha.
“blojo” sounds so wrong, but so right. haha
Hey, there’s keeping away not being let down, but there’s also keeping up a standard of quality of life, and that’s what these expectations seem to tell me. And that definitely is something someone should wish to have.
Also: triple shot? Dude, hardcore.
Very true words indeed. I always love how you write, you crack me up and make me do this:
I am loving your blog! LOVE!
Thank you for your comment on my guest post over at Cheryl’s spot, btw. Shoes are important. Ugly shoes should not exist.
Blojo back in effect.
I love this… and you.
Look who’s back…back again…Liz is back…tell a friend. Cheers to a freaking fabulous weekend lady!
aaawwww… in my 30 something years of existence I have learned that I do not have to settle. Found Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right now (I believe!) … I wish you the same girl! I hope you have a fantabulous weekend!
I have expectations about myself all of the time, too many in fact. I also have them for people – not so good sometimes, I get let down A LOT. Take a deep breath, glad you had a bloggy break, you were missed for you!
I love yoga pants by the way and I feel very sexy in them. You should too – glad you do! 
I love this, Liz. It’s totally inspiring! How did you get your blojo back?? I seem to have misplaced mine!! But, I like to think it comes and goes, and I just need to ride the wave, lol. This is a great post! I really love what you’ve said about expectations…I don’t think they’re such a bad thing to have!
This was a beautiful post, love.
I think a case of the lost-blojo is going around!
Expectations, often unreasonable, bring a little bit of excitement to my life. How boring would it be to be completely content with where you are. Except, sometimes my head is so far up in the clouds that I don’t even realize how much I’m counting on the little things, like for coffee to do its thing!
Ok, if your baby is a girl you totes have to name it Mandi.
hahaha
Mmmkay – so I’m pumped to hear about the return of your blojo. Muahaha.
Also – I have a leetle awardlet for you at leShrimp!
http://shrimpsaladcircus.blogspot.com/2010/03/week-in-review.html
Great, GREAT post. Beautifully written and with so much truth. You’re back, baby! And better than ever!
LOVE you!
XO
Thank you, Liz. I”m getting my blojo on as we speak.
Not that kind, dirty. The other kind.
Sorry I din’t get back to you earlier! I really didn’t do it for that long, so I never mastered the art of meditating. And trust me, you’re not the only one with a million things going through your brain at once. I consider myself a pretty mellow person, and even I had lots of trouble with it. I was told that you just need ackowledge whatever comes into your thoughts while meditating, and then let it go. Like” Hello pretty shoes…ok, bye”. etc… Lol! I’m told it gets easier, but I never had much success with it. Good luck though!
I try to lower my expectations most of the times because I usually expect high, Liz, and easily disappointed because of that;.
=) This made me smile.
I’m into the whole men’s shirts and boyshorts being sexy thing…I’m glad that my boy agrees.
haha, you write the cutest little posts Liz!
I just want to drop by to say Hello. have not visited in a while. Hope all is well and everything is peachy. : ) xo
How is it you always write posts about the things I am thinking about?? I have high expectations too and alot of people have not been meeting mine lately, so I’ve been trying to decide if its me who should lower my expectations – or them should raise to meet what I expect from them… I think I’m going to keep my high expectations of people – but not actually expect them to meet them, lol.
Great post Liz – glad you have your blojo back – I just need to find mine now
LOVE this post!
Also, speaking of blackberries, the hubs has gone through at least 1/2 doz of them b/c of that damn track ball breaking. He finally got a BB touch and hates it too. What is w/ those things? I am in LURVE w/ my iPhone. He would get one in a heartbeat if he could, but his is paid thru work. Poor guy!
I, like you, have many expectations mainly for myself. It’s who I’ve always been. And you are so right, I spend a lot of time on my hair and I sure as hell expect my damn hair to be curly too!
You are hot so how could “the next guy” not think you look great in those?? Ludacris!!!!
That is so true! I love it when people say clever little things like that make me go, “heeeeey, wait a minute…”
Ahhh, thanks for the dose of inspiration! I really needed it today!
This inspiration was greatly needed and is much appreciated !
Liz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how are you babe?? i miss you dearly.. everything’s fine out there my angel??
i see you’ve moved into another territory, which i’m sure you’ll conquer it all too
, and i’m really surprised to see it actually.. i didn’t know and i didn’t expect it either.. how sad that i don’t even know what my friends do let alone blogging 
wish i could take it all back so i could catch up with it all.. but i’m really glad you’re still here darling!!
love you so much!! please don’t forget that ok??
take care. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxo
scuse me m’am i tried to comment on the post above and couldn’t:) great answers, you have such a wonderful blog, hands down one of my favorite and you can tell the reason its such a success and why u have so many great friends is because you are genuine and hilarious. can i start a liz fan club? im sure there’s already one out there somewhere.
xo!
i love you and am glad to hear that you have your blog mojo back.
i hope everything went well this past weekend.
Awesome post girlie, I love it !
Totally agree, I expect so much as well .. I want to be able to rely on somethings .. so I hope and pray that it all works out
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