Testing, testing…
Not sure who’s going to be reading this lil post. Â Can I just explain something to you guys? Â I’ve received so many (sweet) emails regarding my switch to WP-basically along the lines of “HOW COULD YOU DO THAT YOU ARE GOING TO LOSE ALL YOUR FOLLOWERS AND SPONSORS AND NO MORE FREE STUFF AND NO MORE 100 COMMENTS PER POST AND HOW CAN I FOLLOW YOU I AM SO SAD I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS!”
You can still follow me.  We are still friends, and I love you.  I still have my sponsors to the left, to the left, and while we’re talking about them, you should prob check out their shops after reading this here post. I think the protocol for someone like me to up and switch to WP is supposed to go like this-
Get a badass WP site designed by a bloggy bestie turned real lifer. CHECK. P.S. Lilu also does Blogger layouts, but WP is way better. (Google it.)
Make sure every single person who has ever read your blog is aware of your change. Stalk them, bug them, remind them to update their feeds. HAVE YOU DONE THAT, by the way? Just. Sayin.
Comment the shit out of the blogosphere so that everyone knows, hi I’m still here, but on WordPress, you look so pretty and did you update your feed/reader/email/sidebar yet?
Unfortunately, these things had to be put on hold for a lil. Life happened.
I had a wake up call, a few actually, in a very short time span. Â I’ve been extremely lucky, in my life to not have experienced many “WHAT IF” moments. And I’m not talking about the what if I’m having a bad hair day, or what if he doesn’t like me, or what if this bra cracks my ribs. Â I’m talking about the big what if’s, the ones that haunt you.
After I lost control of my car Friday, I did what I will probably always do when I’m scared, no matter how old I get. Â I called my dad and hysterically cried. Â Trying to break through my sobbing he said- “Honey, IS EVERYONE OK? CAN YOU WALK? IS YOUR MOM OK?” “uh huh” I said…and then he said, “Well, then it’s ok. Nothing else matters. Everything else can be fixed.”
Everything else can be fixed.
I was taking my laptop to my techy man friends house because on Thursday night it just stopped working. INSERT PANIC. I hate Friday afternoon’s on  freeways, especially in the rain but- I NEEDMYCOMPUTER-how the hell was I supposed to survive my change to WP without my laptop, comments, posting, emails, twitter, work, pictures, gchat, shoot me in the face.
If you follow me on Twitter, you may have read me bitching about having a BMW and how expensive they are to repair. Â Yeah, I’m keenly aware of how lame and spoiled I sound. My mom said later that I’m lucky I have said BMW-because it’s heavy, sturdy and maybe a different car wouldn’t have kept us as safe.
I’m not going to be cliche’ and say, having a computer no longer matters to me, and spending money on a car only to crash it the next day is just dirt off my shoulder. Um, no. It fucking sucks.
But everything can be fixed.
Losing control of my car is a huge metaphor for where I’m at in my life-and I apologize for the cheesiness of that statement. I am here for a reason, and there are some things I need to get under control. I’ve been given a second chance, a free pass-a costly one, but a free one. I want to continue to do good things-to touch people’s hearts, to make a difference. I want to notice the little things and hug my loved ones a little tighter. I want to be open to my purpose. Â I want to love my life, not just during the good, fabulous, glamorous times. I want to hug my sister just because…not just because we realized what could have been lost.
Talking to Lauren today, I had a bit of an epiphany. Â I, admittedly, am the most extreme person on earth. Â I love it or hate it. I’m all or nothing. I’m ecstatic jumping up and down life of the party or I’m not answering my phone and hiding under the covers. Â I’m either a complete sweetheart or a total bitch.
She likened my life to a roller-coaster, and it has been-my entire life has been the HIGHEST of highs or LOWEST of lows. Â Most of this hasn’t been my fault. Â My childhood was crazy glamorous and also insanely sad.
My adult life has followed this same pattern. I don’t think I know how to just…be. Happy medium. It’s not comfortable for me, there always must be extreme emotions happening-but I need to learn to get there. I want to break this pattern. Because now, even in my personal low’s…
Everything can be fixed. And my life-even if things aren’t at the highest of highs, should be treasured, each moment, each breath, I want to make more beautiful than the last.
For now, I smile. Smiling is the new black, haven’t you heard?
Thank you for reading this. I have a computer on the way, and will be back in full effect on Monday with the damn Covergirl review, talks of bloggy meet ups, and birthdays in Vegas. This is my last week of being…21. ha.
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VEGAS!
I LOVE YOU. VEGASVEGASVEGAS.
LOL to Kelly! Wow miss her like crazzzy.
And I will follow you wherever.
Glad you are safe Lizzie.
First of all, OH MY FUCKING GOD I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU WERE IN A FUCKING CAR ACCIDENT LIKE PLEASE DON’T DIE BECAUSE I NEED YOU like now that I know you, I’m a happier person and like what the fuck would i do without you and why would you even leave me on this earth to suffer in my own grief and I know you didn’t even die and just had an epiphany to be like all happy and honestly, I don’t even know how you could be sad in the first place because your smile is goooorgeous and you should do it more and you know what your sad days are over because I’m here and like, I pretty much just make life better for you, and like oh my fuck I just rememberd that part you wrote about your computer breaking which is pretty much like death because life revolves around computers.
Life is better with you on TOP.
Oh man I love you.
Thank God you are well and thank you for giving me a new mantra- ‘AS LONG AS THERE’S LIFE EVERYOTHER DAMAGE CAN BE FIXED’.
Be safe.
PS @ Kelly: I miss you.
Idy
Big, big, hugs to you!
You and your dad are so right – everything can be fixed. We control what we can and can’t spend our lives fretting about all the rest.
You’re talking about an NYC blogger meet up right?
Hi Kelly! I think of you when stalking Chanel!
eek, I nearly cried when I saw Gabby and your twitters at the weekend – I went on to check if you saw my thing about your laptop battery and couldn’t believe what I read. I’m so glad you and your mum are both ok. It sucks I live so far away because I really wanted to give you and gabby both a hug. Everything is fixible is a great outlook. You blog looks fabulous by the way
love xx
I love that you have to explain that your moving hosts isn’t cause for broken friendships or followings. Oh dear. HA! That is rich.
I’m really glad you’re okay. That is freaking TERRIFYING. But I’m glad you came out with a good perspective. That’s really important.
OH. And you’re looking mighty fine, all up in WP, my dear.
Hi Lizzy, I am so out of the loop whats going on, lost internet due to winter weather, been in the hospital for over a week, medicated there and home, so more out the loop, have a lot of catching up, but remember I’m here, and love you, and I am so so happy you’re OK girl!
Well I just think your fabulous and a miracle.
I am so glad you have a sturdy bmw. Life would not be the same with out your smile and without your shine.
And good on you for getting your own personal (and gorgeous) wp!!
And yes, your dad is so right. Everything else can be fixed (I am tempted to paint this on a massive canvas so i can wake up to it and have it as a reminder all — day — long!!!)
Love you darling to bits!!!
(there is a giveaway on my blog if you want to enter my love!) xxxx
First of all, I am SO glad you and your mom are ok:) When I read your sister’s tweet, I was like, “WHAT?!?!?” I told my hubby – “You know the Cali sister bloggers I love so much…OMG…Liz was just in an accident.” I know I don’t know real-life Liz, but I was worried and concerned and so relieved that you are ok.
And I love your dad. He is SO right – everything can be fixed. My dad has the same attitude about life – I guess that’s what dads are for:)
Your blog looks amazing, and I am really happy for you – and happy that YOU are so happy. Change is good, and we must embrace it, right???
Ok, sorry for the cheesiness. Just know you are loved!
Yup, here come the life changes I referred to. Hope you won’t put too much pressure on yourself too soon Liz, because you’re pretty effing fabulous as it is. (I’d use a stronger word but I’m at work).
So when’s your *cough* 22nd birthday??
Very wise words, I love it!
Your birthday is this month too? I’m a February baby too.
Mine isn’t til the end tho. :p Happy almost birthday!
I swear, Maxie and I were thisclose to jumping on a plane.
Don’t ever do that to us again. When we surprise yo ass, it’s gonna be for FUN!!!
xoxo
Glad to hear you’re okay .. this really sucks and I’m sorry it happened to you, although you seem to be making the best of it
)
Enjoy your last week, Lady.. 6 days .. 6 days !!!!
Jebus. When I switched from my blogspot url to my .com, neither feed updated for two weeks and I thought my life was over.
WORDPRESS IS NOT WORTH THE FEAR.
FINALLY!!! I can get to your blog. It was hating me and saying crazy things like error and stfu and whatnot. Thank God I’m a stalker I mean not a quitter and I’m still here.
So sad about the accident, but just like your daddy said everything can be fixed. At least no one got hurt.
So glad you and you’re mom are doing ok! It’s funny( not in a ha ha way, but in an A-HA! way) that I had pretty crazy accident on the same month as my birtdhay! I had a lot of those same questions too. I’m not glad for the accident itself, but for shaking things up in me too. For the realization that life is indeed too short to be complacent. And that yes, everything (no matter how incredibly frustrating, difficult, impossible) can be fixed! And yes, you will get through this WordPress move too ;o)
Enjoy your last week of being *21* and have a very Happy Birthday!
i’m glad you & Mom are okay & that guy is pretty smart.
sometimes i catch myself complaining about stuff, & then put myself back in check – i have my family and we have our health. everything else is icing on the cake.
I would still read your blog if you completely went off the internet and I had to read it by waiting at my door for a biweekly telegraph.
That’s what’s up. Mofo.
Again, so glad you & your ma dukes are ok! And WP is whats up! I loveee it. <3
i am so glad everyone was ok!
i went through the same thing about two years ago- i was in the best shape of my life- the skinnies loved me, and i was starting to get muscles! then i was rear ended- like kinda bad. and my shoulder and hip were jacked up. and now, even two years later, i still don’t have my skinnies/muscleys back- and it is hard to not be mad and bitter and use mr. man.who.hit.me’s name as a curse word. but things can be fixed, and i am alive.
life can change in the blink of an eye, and every second should be treasured!
happy birthday week gorgeous! have more fun than you can stand!!
v to the egas lady!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i will turn that frown upside down!
I think I’m too internet ignorant to really know the diff between Blogger and WP… who cares that you switched?! You’re still fabulous and so is your blog!!
May I reiterate that I AM SO GLAD YOU WERE OKAY after sliding across the freeway. I did that once, in a snowstorm, right before Christmas… lost control of my car, slid across three lanes of traffic, one of which had a semi truck coming at me, then stopped *inches* from the guard rail that kept me from rolling/plummeting down the side bank… um, YEAH, puts a few things in perspective. I hate driving in snow to this day (which is tricky living in CO and all…)
Can’t wait for your Covergirl/Vegas/all the rest of your posts!!
xoxo J
Everything can be fixed Liz. And you know what, I did have a hard time following you this time. My google reader advised me to get rid of some of the blogs I’m following to accommodate you. And that’s exactly what I did… I love you too much to lose you. Hahaha! Don’t laugh. xoxo
Yay! I tried to visit your blog yesterday but I got an error message..and had a mini heart attack! haha. So happy you are on here and loving wordpress!!
Now I can get my daily dose of inspiration again!! 
I’m so glad you’re okay! I do the same thing when I panic especially in car accidents. Except I call my mom.
It’s very true what you’re dad said and sometimes it’s hard to actually grasp but every time something bad happens I try to tell myself the same thing. Money doesn’t create happiness, sure it sometimes makes things easier, but it doesn’t control everything. We control the way things effect us and how we choose to deal with hardship. It can either hinder your growth or the opposite. Positive people choose to grow from experiences and you, my friend, are always positive!
Ugh I hate when I don’t pay attention to what I’m typing. I’m not illiterate I promise! It’s your not YOU’RE.
I’m so happy that you are ok. It does suck that it takes shit like this to make you open your eyes… I’m the exact same way!
I look forward to the upcoming post
“I love smiling… smiling’s my favorite” – best line on ELF!!
Love you, girly! Glad we could epiphanize (is that a word? It is now…) And I’m always here to help you find that happy medium and grow to love it! There are always going to be highs and lows, but just maintain the medium and I swear it, you’ll love yourself for it.
xoxo
whoa…i’m a little disoriented here. LOVE the new blog. love.
More than relieved to hear that you and your mum are safe and sound. and relieved to see you smiling!!
So are you loving wordpress? Why exactly? =)
I love that you are so real. I lost control of my car and freaked out just like you did. Moments like that really make us think about life. Stay strong and good luck with the mom to WordPress. I still follow you.
what a beautiful post…certain experiences really do put life into perspective.
as for your switch to WordPress, that was a brave thing to do. i think you have a strong enough following to do it, so ultimately it will even out.
keep going strong!
xoxo alison
37 comments? I think you did pretty well migrating your audience over to this AWESOME new home.
Delurking here, btw. Keep up the good work – it’s something to smile about, for sure.
You and I are in the same spot in our life, despite the almost decade in age between us. Retraining yourself to notice all of life’s joys is a constant work in process, but you will get there, and I hope someday I do to. I definitely feel blessed to know you!
Hugs!!!!
I love you, Lizzy Lizzy (I don’t know why I felt compelled to write your name twice; but I did so…yeah!).
And OF COURSE I remember the music e-mail. I would do it again. A million times over. Just say the word and you will find another in your inbox!! Happy, Happy Weekend kitty cat!!
WTF, I can’t figure out why you won’t show up in my dashboard, so annoying. So very annoying.
I love what you did! Your blog looks amazing! And I’m following you here and will be constantly visiting! Love ya girl!
So happy you’re hear you’re safe and well and still with us, lovely. You’re right, you know. I had my own brush with the beyond a couple of years ago, and my Dad said the same thing to me…”So long as you’re alive, you can fix things.”
Anyway, the new format looks great (and is making me think of switching to WordPress!), and I hope you take care of yourself this weekend.
Hey! I just wanted to stop by and see the new blog and all!
Just so happy YOU are okay… I am like you. An extremist… actually I think S and I are both like that. I am working SO hard on finding that happy medium. So far, I have to tell you – it’s going good…
Life is too much sometimes… but in the end – it works out. It’s wading our way through this funky mess to get there that’s the hard part.
Love ya lady! xo
I’m so glad you’re alright, Liz, and took very wise conclusions from the lessons. Happy medium is hard but we can find it, it just takes self control.
Anyhoo, I like wordpress too. Your followers should love you wherever you are. It’s just changing rss feeds, for goodnesssake, what’s so hard about it?
Ps. I have no idea we’re at the same age. I’m a few months older, nonetheless. Wow!
I’m glad you are well after that crash. I totally know what you mean I had a big crash about 2 years ago, my car was a wrack and I cried and cried but I was so lucky no one was next to me and I was totally fine, it took me more than 3 month to drive again and find a new car and I still have fears but I try to get it under control as I do with my life. By the way BMW is a really good and safe car – I need to say this – they are from Munich haha… Oh and I don’t think you’ll loose one single reader, we love you all! Have a nice weekend!
Everything else can be fixed.
I don’t know what it is about that simple phrase, but it actually almost brought me to tears. It is so, so true. Some things matter, some things don’t – everything else can be fixed. Was not expecting to be hit over the head with something so simple and yet so very profound today.
Also? Blogger, WordPress, who cares? WordPress is superior to Blogger but it’s more fancypants and I’m lazy so I am staying on Blogger but you know what? I don’t get what the big deal is. Wherever you go, people will follow. It’s hardly the end of the world.
I’m so glad to hear you’re okay!
Hi Liz, I’m a first time reader here on your blog…I found you through LiLu. I am so sorry to read about your accident. I had one in November in which my car was totalled and I am just glad my son was not in the car with me. I am glad you and your mom are doing well. Reading your description of yourself was like someone writing about me….I am an extremist as well and the in betweens are very uncomfortable, like something is missing. So I get what you’re saying.
And I didn’t see your former blog layout but I love the look of this one. My best to you!
OMG…thank the heavens above that you and your Mom are ok! No more accidents, k? Please?
I think this is a sign that you should move closer to Lilu and me, where public transportation is abundant and cars are unnecessary. Then again, our subway isn’t 5 stars as of late.
Be safe! Fly with angels!
Glad you are hanging in there and looking to the bright side of life – when I got into a car accident I too really felt lucky and reevaluated everything in my life. Sorry about your BMW and car, that’s a double wammy and I would be upset too! Can’t wait to see you back here on Monday. XO!
Oops, sorry about your BMW and computer – that’s what I meant to say. HA!
So so so happy you’re safe love.
You inspire me. You get me thru. I just wanted to let you know.
xox
So glad you are safe and were being looked after. That must’ve been so terrifying, I don’t know what to say really. Just glad you and everyone in the car walked away from it all. Take care, Lizzy!
LoverLover! I’m so glad you’re OK and your enormously hot weave is still in tact. I will update my shit and continue to follow you, of course.
XOXO
i’m following you, darling! couldn’t miss out on your lovely blog haha :p
ps: i’m not 100% sure, but were you the blogger who LOVED the coco bag by alexander wang? for some reason, i thought it was you. i found like a really perfect inspiration bag (it’s on my blog)- if it wasn’t you i’m totally sorry haha! :p
Hey love! I am baaack! My attempts at (re)following have succeeded!
Anyways- so happy that you are alright and hope you know I have been keeping you in my thoughts. Sucks though- and scary too. Main thing is you are ok and Mom too.
oh- and double ugh on the computer issues. Seriously- when it rains, it pours.
xo- S
You are the shizzest. THE SHIZZIEST.
And everything will be okay, ya hear?
i’m so glad you are ok! and i just updated my sidebar. i had forgotten and then i looked at my sidebar and was like umm that isnt right…ahhh. now i have to fix my button. im on it! and seriously, i’m glad you are ok, and sometimes you need a wakeup call to figure things out. i’m sorry dear. xoxo
Glad you are safe, love! Thank you for all of your support over the past few weeks. I look forward to your new adventures in wordpress.
I AM HOME!! Did you miss me? I’ll have you know that you were the only one to get my drunken emails this weekend. D got one drunk-dial about my issues buying hamburger buns.
I hope you’re feeling better. We have LOTS to catch up on.
I love this post and I love my buggie. I can’t wait to see you this weekend. Xoxo!
glad you’re ok! i couldn’t get to your blog for a bit so im glad i finally found you again! I switched blogs too, check me out here, if ya wanna… http://whereitsalwaystheweekend.blogspot.com/
keep smilin, pretty lady!
I was wondering why your blog wasn’t updating on my feed! I was like, how come this chick hasn’t blogged in a while!!
OMG so scary to hear you lost control of your car, and i’m also happy to hear that you and your mom are alright. No, I don’t think you are spoiled for having a BMW, the car served its purpose!
I like the WP layout!
I’m so glad that you are okay. sounds like a super scary situation but at least you walked away from it ok. your dad is a smart guy because he is right, everything else can be fixed. the most important thing is your health, safety and well being.
as for the switch to word press, I still love you!
and I just re-followed. and I’m trying to update my blogroll though it is being a bit of a pain… but don’t worry, I’m still here! and I don’t doubt everyone else will, too.
You know I think you’re all sorts of fabulousness, dear! SOOO glad you’re alright!
And why am I NOW just realizing that you and Gabby are sisters?
*HUGS*
I Love this post Lizzy dear and I’m THRILLED you’re on WP. You’ have an awesome heart dear! Muah
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Is it your birthday now? How bout now? Can I say it now? NOW???
i am sad. uphauled. in disbelief…. that you failed to tell me you switched over.
hahaha just kidding! i know i’ve been a bit MIA in the bloggy world and i have missed coming to your blog!
Glad to know that you are okay. Your dad reminds me of my dad. Everything can be fixed… I remember times when I would cry to him because of something that was lost or broken and i had to shell out lots of money to get it fixed… he would always tell me, Money is just Money, it can be earned again. I know its not the same situation but you gets where i’m goin’… ;P
<3 ya!
oh oh oh and advanced happy birthday!
smiling is sexy and so are you. THE END.
love you – and i’m loving the new site. will take a minute to get used to but hey, it works yes?
i will email you shortly to update you about the weekend. so glad you are ok and that you are doing well!
you know i’ll follow you anywhere lady! loves.
Aww! This was so wonderfully written and heart touching. I’m so glad you are ok! But it’s things like that which make you truly appreciate everything, and I’m happy that it was nothing worse than just needing your car fixed. I’m sorry about all the expenses though.
Such a bummer! This was a totally inspirational post. 
Happy Birthday love! Wow February is blessed with some great birthdays. Annndddd you in SF hello lady! That’s where I be!!!!
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Glad you are okay and that you have a wise father!
Oh my gosh!! I’m so sorry you are having a bad time right now! Aren’t daddy’s the best though? That’s exactly what my pappa would say and it’s so right. With time, all can heal.
At least that’s what I like to think
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