I was on a conference call last week, and it turned into a complete mess, as most conf calls do. One girl, on the East coast who I’ve never met but have developed a rapport with via phone and email, kept trying to say something valid but nobody would listen. Finally she was able to break through the bitching, moaning and blame game to say, “I know this won’t change anything, but I need to be heard. I need to say this.” And went on to make her point.
I called her after the meeting as she is my ally these days, and she said “Liz, I know they weren’t listening to me. I’m sure it went in one ear out the other. But for my own sanity, I had to say it. I had to know that I said it. I need to be heard.”
I need to be heard.
Girlfriends. Le sigh, right? So many blogs on the subject, I know. I’ve posted about it before and I adore this post by my friend Brown Girl, as well.
{This post isn’t about the Blair to my Serena, just clarifying so ya’ll don’t have to google it. We’re solid.}
I’m hesitant to write about this at all, I don’t want to come off heartless, cold or like I do no wrong because I do. I am not the perfect friend, let’s just get this out of the way…honestly…
I’ve been called stuck up and a bitch by girls who haven’t spoken one word to me. This scares me into not wanting to try. I am moody, flighty and at times, my mind changes at the last minute. My life is so crazy and complicated that often I don’t let potential friends all the way in because it’s hard to know who to trust, and frankly, sometimes I can’t worry about letting down one.more.person. I come off snobby when I don’t mean to at all because I get very quiet if I’m uncomfortable or out of my element. I might make plans with you because I really do want to see you, but have to cancel because of above said crazy life, or because I just need to sit in my room and decompress and I’m afraid to tell you all the crazy going on in my head. Sometimes I forget to write thank you cards. I am too hard on myself and sometimes that means I can be too hard on my friends. I’m working on all these things, and I appreciate the girls in my life who make me want to be a better friend, you know who you are.
But, if you need to talk, you better call me! When you’re really sick, I will pray and rally my troops and get a whole heck of a lotta people praying for you. If you’re in the hospital, I will want to be by your side. Wild horses couldn’t keep me away. I will stay up all night with you talking, I will hate the guy who hurt your heart, call him names and cry with you. I will tell you what shoes you should wear and yes, of course duh, you can borrow mine and sure, I’ll do your makeup before your date! If you need a place to stay, you’ve got one. I will tell you highly inappropriate jokes to make you laugh when you’re upset. If you live across the country, I’ll buy a plane ticket simply because I want to sit on the couch with you and watch Curb, because I love you. I’ll support your decisions, celebrate your achievements, encourage your dreams, sympathize with your pms, remind you of your worth should you forget, be in your wedding, do the makeup for your wedding, and so on and so forth… 
Meaning…once you’re in my heart, you’re in. Super glued, cemented, and I do the best I can.
But, if you need to talk, you better call me! When you’re really sick, I will pray and rally my troops and get a whole heck of a lotta people praying for you. If you’re in the hospital, I will want to be by your side. Wild horses couldn’t keep me away. I will stay up all night with you talking, I will hate the guy who hurt your heart, call him names and cry with you. I will tell you what shoes you should wear and yes, of course duh, you can borrow mine and sure, I’ll do your makeup before your date! If you need a place to stay, you’ve got one. I will tell you highly inappropriate jokes to make you laugh when you’re upset. If you live across the country, I’ll buy a plane ticket simply because I want to sit on the couch with you and watch Curb, because I love you. I’ll support your decisions, celebrate your achievements, encourage your dreams, sympathize with your pms, remind you of your worth should you forget, be in your wedding, do the makeup for your wedding, and so on and so forth… 
Meaning…once you’re in my heart, you’re in. Super glued, cemented, and I do the best I can.This weekend, I was hurt by a very good friend. Or so I thought she was. I don’t want to slander her publicly because she’s doing it enough to herself and I feel more pity for her than anything else but…I NEED TO BE HEARD. I feel conned, used, taken for granted and sad. Angry? Latina fury? Hell yes. But sad because I trusted her, she was in my heart…and I just don’t understand. Life happens, people aren’t who they seem and I hope she gets the help that she so desperately needs. There are no excuses for the way she treated me…and until she owns up to that, I can’t have her in my life. And it hurts to write that, and mean it.
{This picture isn’t nice. But it made me laugh.}
All I know is that I did the best I could.
“I’m not anyone, I’m ME. You can tell me anything, we’re sisters. You’re my family. What is you, is me. There’s nothing you could ever say to make me let go. I love you.” Blair Waldorf
Thank you for being here, friends. 
XOXO,
Liz
P.S. Today, my womb-mate/twin and our family are celebrating her life…4 years ago today we almost lost her to a pulmonary embolism, and I can’t fathom my life without Gabby. I was blessed to be born with a best friend, which makes this post kind of fitting for today.
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Being friends with girls is hard and it only works with the right girl. I know that sounds odd to say but…sometimes there is too much drama with girls. And girlfriends can get to back stabbing real quick.
I lovee that you are true, blue and fantastically loyal.
Kisses, love!
i love this. i already told you, i love you more than life itself, but after this post, i seriously want to be your BFF. what you described in a friend is what a friend should be. i dont have many girlfriends, because they ALWAYS seem to break my heart, sleep with my boyfriend, tell lies, befriend my worst enemy, you know that "cardinal friend rule" shit.. they just go against it, and it makes me wanna pull out my hair. i just cant do being friends with girls. most girls. girls who are not like you.
i wubbb you. im sorry you were hurt and i hope that she owns up to what she did or she can answer to me! *puts her dukes up*
Seriously who wouldn't be lucky to be your friend. xoxo
pee ess: your sisseerrr wrote on my blog today, that she likes me. i felt giddy inside!! <3 you both are amazing.
oooh… how I just love you. Your posts always pick me up when I'm in a down mood.
You sound like an awesome friend irl. There are few loyal girls like you out there these days.
back-stabbing hoes… soooo over that and their drama.
you know my thoughts on this…and you know how i feel about having you in my life, fortunate doesn't say it enough.
you are an amazing person who loves to love and anyone that can't appreciate that love or takes advantage of that love, is not worth loving.
in life we need to move forward and in the end the only one that matters is you…and the good friends lucky enough to have you.
You're my laverne and dont you forget it because i wont. mmhmmm HIGH 5 bitch
oh and did i ever tell you…you compose so eloquently ..now lets watch MP and then TH and then TC and talk shit ..thats what friends doo
Hey Sweetie-
I'm so sorry to hear about this friendship mess because you are definitely one of the kindest, most considerate people ever! I know it must be hard to not let it bring you down. I'm sorry I haven't kept in touch better. I do think about you though and wish you the best with work, dating, and friendships. I find myself checking twitter and your blog to make sure you're ok.
i'm labeled a bitch. shocking, i know. i feel the same though. it's okay to have your guard up, normal even. girls are backstabbing whores- but they are also the ever present rock that we all need.
i've totally been there. the worst part for me was how incredibly stupid i felt. ug. and it was *her* she was the one who was wrong. *hugs* to you! you deserve the best friends.
Oh sweet lizzy….
My heart hurts that your heart is hurting. Wounds from a trusted friend are definitely one of the worst kind.
But, knowing what an amazing incredible chick you are, you most certainly have surrounded yourself with people who will lift you and take care of you through this.
Hang in there love.
I've been thru all this too… when I moved out to Vancouver my bff-4-life cancelled last minute plans and we never got to say goodbye. I used to be such an emotional wreck over it. And I was so much like you, being sorta snobby just because I didn't want all the emotional attachment/involvement or future headaches. I just wanted nice easy friendships but the ones I had were crazy enough.
Eventually I learned to let go. Things weren't my fault. I was who I was, and some people were selfish and we all need to let go.
Now I greet everyone with at least a smile. You needn't let your baggage get involved with your future connections in life.
Lizzie…my bam bam…i want to bring you Sonic
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I totally feel you on this post. You spoke to each and every one of us girls here reading this, because i'm sure we've all been hurt by a friend at sometime.
Smile girl…i'm sending you lots and lots of {{HUGS}}
I hate that this happens to you because I know how big your heart is. How wonderful of a friend you are…yet some people see that and instead of being grateful for it, they take it for granted and/or take advantage. Sorry you're hurting. I'm glad you know it is by no way a result of how amazing of a friend you are. People make bad choices and sometimes good people get hurt because of them. I'm so glad you have Gabby, and BC and all of us – cause we love you
xx
You know what, I totally know how much it sucks when a friend backstabs or suddenly starts acting selfish. It's like whatever we have done for them (that we never even gave a second thought to) was stupid!
On the other hand, there's nothing like having a good, reliable,fun Best Friend. So regardless of what usually happens with girls, here it is to our friends and to our friendships with them.
Beautifully written and put dear Liz… I can relate in so many ways it's scary.♥ Also, very sorry to hear about the 'friend' disappointment. Sadly, can relate to that part also. But I think like all relationships, the bad ones and the disappointments are needed so the keepers and the friends-forever can be found. Sending wishes for a lovely week with no false-friend troubles your way and much love for the amazing Gabby. You both remind me of my sis' Anna and me! *besos*
It totally sucks when girl friends hurt us – it is painful down to the core of our being because we always feel we can trust our female counterparts, yet there is always a few who let us down (really down). Sorry for you, but know that like you said, she is the one who is hurting worse because she lost you and your loyal, sweet, loving, and fun self!
What are best friends for!! The ups and downs and day to day loves!!
This was super honest. One thing I love about you is that you are a VERY good friend to your friends. And I want to cut a bitch when you're not treated well. No, but SMH. haha! I feel really really sad about this particular situation. It's just sad.
And yay for being alive and lucky you. I mean, FOR REALS.
I totally know how you feel, girl. I have been burned many, many times, by best friends. It's hard to open up to new people, especially as I get older. New people think I'm stuck up because I'm quiet.
That girl doesn't deserve your friendship.
I DO think we'll have a FAB time whenever we do get to get dinner and drinks and I truly do hope it happens someday soon
Remember to breathe and don't let work stress you out. Easier said then done, of course I know that (I wanted to punch someone in the face today at work)
And yay for celebrating your sister's life! I hope you and your family stay happy and healthy always!
Been there too darling!
Didn't know about darling Gabby serious condition…I'm so glad it was a happy ending! Hallelujahhhh!
xo
Firstly, enjoy your day celebrating your darling sister. You poor things to have gone through that!! But thank goodness she is better now!! Here is to plenty more gabby days to celebrate!!
Oh darling, this was a fantastic post!! i relate so much to you!! I really can't stand how people pre judge someone – especially – when they have not even said one word to them! That has definitely happened in my life.
In all honesty… the girls who have thought you were a bitch or snobby definitely have a few screws loose in their heads!.. I don't know how anyone could get that impression of you! You are a wonderful, amazing and beautiful person!! xx
Liz, I have tears in my eyes! I [lately] feel very lonely and friendless. And all of those things you said, that's what true friendship really means. I'm one of those friends, that ones that give 110% and never even get a 50% back. It really hurts when "friends" pretty much stab you in the back. You're an AMAZING human being, don't let anyone or anything take u out. I wish I could give u a real hug, but here's an e-hug.
I love the pictures that you added to this post.
"Meaning…once you're in my heart, you're in. Super glued, cemented, and I do the best I can" and that quote is absoluty gorgeous.
X, fashion-nerdic.
ok for real.. we are like the same person. to the tee. i am the EXACT same way when it comes to friends. once you're in.. you're in and there is no getting out. but if i don't feel like i can trust you you are kept at distance til proven "worthy".
same with boys. my heart is worth more than they can afford so until that boy comes around who can sweep me off my feet and just "wow" me.. fort knox ;]
buuut.. i am soo sorry to hear this happened to you. i had a friend break my trust and i went through the same feelings [to a certain extent of course] that you are feeling. who knows, you may be better off without her.
good luck on everything and you know i'm here if you need to talk. EVER. looove you lady.
Oh total bummer. She has let go a diamond for sure…her loss!
Loved your honesty babe, you're the best. That is so great you are best friends with your sister Gabby.
How terrible for her, you and the family with that health scare. Thank God she's okay.
xxx
Liz, you are an amazing, eloquent, and dynamic person and I'd love to be your friend. If I was in LA, I'd bake you up something right away.
Friendship can be hard because sometimes people change and we don't even know it. I stopped being so personal on my blog because I wondered aloud whether to drop a bridesmaid because she never called me or seemed to care anymore. It was really hard and I got slammed and called a bridezilla. Whatevs. Let people be judgemental because you can't change that. Just be true to yourself girl.
If I could teleport I'd bring you some fish and chips and some sticky toffee pudding (haven't had that but heard it's IT).
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you but this is an great post and we all know you are amazing and you deserve better.
I hope you, Gabby and your family have a great day celebrating
I couldn't have written this better if I'd written it myself! Girls can be down right brutal. Sorry somebody was such a snatch! It's hard to learn who your true friends are somethimes. Keep your chin up and hug your sister today!
Without the struggles in some relationships, we wouldn't realize just how perfect others are.
You are an amazing women!! (with fabulous hair)
xoxoxo
so sexiest blog
after a long back i visited your blog its entirely different.It tends to me on a sexiest mood
What a beautiful, beautiful way to show your friends how much you care, esp your friend Gabby. It is so important for friends to remember that holding in your emotions/feelings will never allow you to feel better or become a stronger person. Friends are there for a reason, to help us become better, to help make us happier, to guide us in life while holding our hands the entire way!
all i am going to say is that i love you lady…you are so very incredibly amazingly important to me…i need assigned seats…we need to make them in san fran b/c i need to see you and banana…and i am so very happy to have you as my cheerleader and me as yours…this post means the world to me cause i know…you know…we know…from country cord one mind one pod…
love you madly woman…anna and lexie all the way till death…and p.a. is gonna pay for it…booya!
I can really understand what you are saying. I see some of this in myself as well. But I have noticed that as I get older and I suppose more "mature" (whatever that really means) I've found it to be easier to let new people in.
xo
Good morning, gorgeous! I totally know exactly what you're going through. When you said "My life is so crazy and complicated that often I don't let potential friends all the way in because it's hard to know who to trust, and frankly, sometimes I can't worry about letting down one.more.person.", I literally had to stop and read that sentence over and over again. I could not have summed up the way that I feel all too often more beautifully or more appropriately.
This post just illustrates one of the many reasons that I love you. You care. You have heart. You are genuine. And you are an incredible friend! My heart breaks for you that you're having to deal with someone who literally sucks at life (or so it sounds). But you know what?! You are soooo much better than her! And you are far too fabulous to have people who bring you down in your life!! Focus on those who lift you up…like your sis! (whose blog I just found and fell in love with, by the way!) Such an inspiring story!
Hang in there, girlie! People suck. You, on the other hand, are destined for greatness!!
xoxo!
oh, this is a tough subject. i have lost and ditched many friends along the way. many. that probably doesn't speak well of me at all, but when folks drift away or do me wrong, i usually just let them go without a fight. a friend recently threw me under the bus and it hurt. a lot. but friends gone awry remind you to hold on to the good ones and ditch the bad ones.
i am sure this makes no sense. but your post sure does! and i am so glad you and gabby have each other. i have a little sis that is the best person in the world to me, and i cannot imagine life without her.
I'm not going to say anything here except that I love you. And I love Gabby.
"Keep calm and carry on" right?
<3
I'm so sorry you are having a tough time right now with one of your "friends", it's hard as we get older to keep and maintain certain friendships. People grow and change and some, unfortunately don't always have your best interest at heart. But just know that you are a wonderful, amazing person and there are so many people in this world that won't ever take you for granted or hurt you and those are the friendships that will last a lifetime.
P.S. So happy that everything worked out with Gabby and that she's still around to make us all smile.
Was that the conference call where you accidentally laughed?
I know how you feel about the friend, going through it myself and am in shock more than anger right now.
I could be all supportive and sympathetic like most of the comments I read (ok, skimmed) on my way down, BUT, I've never really been one to follow the crowd. So, do I taunt you into buying a plane ticket to visit me in what is undoubtedly frigid weather for you, because, let's be honest, I make the best gooey cookies and hot chocolate to make you feel better? Even I wouldn't force Toronto's weather on someone, so instead, I'll just say: She can't be cool enough for February.
xoxox
(P.S. If you need me, I'm here. Just call, or e-mail, or whatever.
(P.P.S. I know I'm a softie.)
You know…
"Real" friends are so hard to come by expecially as we mature..I have gfs who were awesome years ago but now have become so weird and strange that I don't even want to be around them…but its THEM not US.
WE are awesome.
Luvs & hugs to you doll!
XOXO
Amy
I am sorry for your heart ache…I have lost quite a few friends this year…ok I had to cut out people in my life this year to only surround my self with trueness and know what I was giving was being returned! Ill be prayin for ya cuz I know it sucks! GIRL do I know it sucks! You are an amazing individual and you deserve only to have people around you who recognize that
<3
I love you.
I am proud of you.
You will be ok.
You are beautiful and successful.
You need good, solid folks in your life. Folks that will surround you with light and love.
I am that friend for you.
xo SIZ
This post is amazing…. wow. Can you put it all in perspective…
And happy birthday!! I did not know you had a twin… that is so cool.
And call it a little birthday present, but I left a blog award on my post for you today
oh girl, you are amazing so don't let this bring you down. its so hard to be such good friends with someone and imagine having that person around for the rest of your life {wedding, play dates, coffee dates, shopping} and then one day realizing they are not good people and you have to let go and move on and be thankful for the amazing friends you do have.
Wow, I love this post. Truly.
And I hear you, I really do.
Maybe I haven't been hurt much (and I'm grateful for that) but I open myself up to new friends / acquaintances like there's no tomorrow. Not in a TMI kinda way (well, okay, maybe sometimes ..lol) but in a this-is-my-true-heart-my-soul-please-don't-step-all-over-it kinda way. I trust people. so much.
Like I said, this may change with time.. if I get used and abused.. but for now I can't imagine being different.
I think you do your best at protecting your heart and you sure do a heckuva better job at it than me. It's good and hopefully, hurtful people will stay away.
I'm here if you need anything. I would fly all the way to Cali for you
Kisses !
i really loved that post. and not just for the blair quote at the end. girls are rough on each other. ive been through it far too many times. but we are strong and we are resilient. you will either make up or move on and have a better life. i wish you all the best
I love you times infinity, Liz. This is such an amazing post. It can be tough being friends with girls; but together we are so much better. I don't blame you though – no one should be mistreated by someone who supposedly cares for them. Take time apart from each other; and if things don't work out in the end…don't stress. You're better without her!
I loved reading this. So special and honest. And I'm thinking about you and your sister today..I'm thinking about sisters in general..blood sisters and sisters by choice. xo
loved that post… so special, so sad and so true! i don't know why being friends with girls can be so complicated sometimes, have the same problem so I am always a bit reserved in the beginning and am misunderstood often as arrogant… but at least you have one of those special friends!
Highly inappropriate jokes?! Best friend where have you been?! hahaha
I like to run in a small crowd, so I know about being quite when you're out of your element! I am always soooo quite at first, but with my friends I can't shut up. It's the best to have friends who just get you. Even when you're not the life of the party and hell you want some wine to go with your whine! lol
Big Yayyyys for Gabby's health!
I'm so sorry that that happend I can totally relate i just had to end a friendship too and its kills me!(but i digress) anyway it's her loss because from what i can see your an awsome person and i would be honored to be your friend.
Don't worry bout it honey. I've had to drop friends before for similar bad behavior and heart breakage. Sometimes people are human in ways that makes you have to say "sure, I love you. But I'll love you from over here, and you stay over there. All the best. Byes…"
So good for you for keeping your heart protected against those who would abuse it!
And don't worry, own your pace. If it's slower than others' to let ppl in, then the ones you let in truly are all the more deserving! Don't feel bad about it, it's YOU. And you're awesome
And yay for Gabby's 4-year life-iversary!
I can't believe anyone would be so beastly to you! You're such a wonderful girl. Want come over and poke needles in a voodoo doll with her name on it?
Don't let one lying attention whore get in the way of letting others in. There are so many wonderful, kind people out there, like me!
I'm sorry you got hurt. It's clear by the comments that you are very well loved and you know that any time you need "to be heard" I'm here for you!
xoxo
Liz, sorry to hear about what happened.
Don't you sometimes wish things were just black and white like how it was when we were in grade school? I do. Things and people just get more complicated with time it seems. The light at the end of the tunnel of course is that not all people are like your ex-friend. 
Cheers to Gabby!!!
Oh so sorry to hear this my dear. It is hard to have a good friend turn on you like that.
Love the photos in the blog! Relationships with friends can be tough…we win some we lose some..some are jsut there for a season..but your true friends always stay put no matter what! You are an awesome lady!
It's scary how much you sound like me.
So scary, that I don't even have the words to write. I am sorry that you have been hurt – you deserve the very best in a friend, and this person clearly doesn't know what she is losing. *Hugs* to you… we ALL need to be heard sometimes!
I think every woman goes through this, but no one writes about it.
Friendships fail from lack of communication; either one isn't listening or one isn't speaking and it's so sad when that happens.
i'm sorry to hear about the hurt you went through with your friend
like diana above me said… i think we all go through it but are just afraid to speak up. i went through a lot of painful friendships as well and always questioned, why? why would they do that? but i was always reminded by my parents to just have peace knowing that i did my part, i did my best, i was the best friend i could be to them. in the end, you see the friends who are truly friends, not just for a season, but for life. 
you are an amazing lady, lady! 
OMG, Liz!
Greetings from Casa Hice. I just wandered over here from Chef Green's "The Sauce" and you stole my heart. I think I'm in love with you on my first visit! Will you ever see comment #62? I hope so!
Your ex-friend thing just happened to ME too! Long story, but I'm still stinging from it and it happened last month. Horror! Sad. Butchered my faith, but not in everyone. I am going to follow your blog immediately and get you on my Blogroll, so I never miss a post. What a straight-up awesome blog. Cannot WAIT to get to know you better! XO
i love this post. it's so refreshing when someone is just REAL. i can relate to feeling conned by a so-called friend…it hurts. i hope all works out girl. hang tough
So sorry, Honey Lizzy
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Looks like you and I are going through similar stuff sweetie, I feel your pain. As my quote said, the true people who really care will love you for you. Me too. I love you for you! XOXO!
Great Post! I feel for you in so many ways. I've been there once, and my best friend and I didn't talk for 3 YEARS! One day we just started talking again and now we can't even remember why we stopped talking to each other. There is hope….sometimes you both have to admit that you just need to get over it. You're not always lucky enough to rekindle that friendship as I was.
I dont ever get sick of reading your posts. Your description of what a friend is needs to be published in some mag somewhere! Ah-mazing
This is one of the most touching posts I have ever read!!! I want you at my wedding.
I honestly do! Or maybe at the engagement party (just because that is definitely sooner than the wedding!)
I know I might sound weird, but hey! A girl needs to be heard, yes? And I honestly sometimes need the comfort of talking to someone I don't know, knowing they would never judge me xx
Oh girl, this post almost made me cry… I'm really sorry about your betrayal. That's what makes that kind of shiz SO hard! Betraying trust is straight to the heart and soul, thru and thru. And then it makes you wonder why you were so trusting and then you start spiraling down that self-blame path… which is such BS because it's def not you, it's the other party!!! You were doing what any big-hearted gal would do, and that was entrusting your heart to them… so their betrayal is THEIR bad. And they SO don't deserve the overflowing love and loyalty you have to give.
So there.
xoxo J
(oh, and "NaBloPoMo" is Nat'l Blog Posting Month… don't worry, I'm under a rock in so many ways, too, LOL!!)
I admire you for being the bigger person and recognizing that the problem is her! You seem to be a very honest, kind person and it sucks that girls hurt each other this way. I teach high school girls and see all of the cattiness at a different level, and when girls betray one another, it's because they are insecure with themselves! I truly believe that. I wish you lots of love and positive thoughts.
What a great post. I'm sorry to hear that about your former friend. I have a very hard time befriending other chicks, but once you're my friend, i'd do anything for you. Big hug!
I very rarely trust girls. Most of my life I never had any best girl friends because I could not relate with all the talking and gossiping and gabbing. Just a year ago, I got a chick best friend, we were so much alike. I cared so much about her, and then for some very retarded reasons, she cut off all communication with me. It was nice to have a girlfriend. And I hope I can get one someday. But girls can be really evil to each other.
i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you.
and i love that you were honest about this. especially because most of us have been through this. and it sucks.
much love. xoxo.
Wow, I love this post. I LOVE YOU DOLL!! You're soooo Special**! You're a very nice person.
I'm sorry to hear that about your former friend
I'm with you too! My Crazy girlll!Love youuu
I would hope that anyone who is blessed to be friends with you would know how lucky they are. You are the type that would do anything for a friend. That which makes you easily hurt is that which makes you so amazing…your giant heart. I'm sorry that anyone would trample on that!
Great post…all very true. I think we all don't think we're being heard from time to time and it can be frustrating.
Hope things work out for the best for you and your friend. Have a good night!
I'm never sure how to react to your heart explosions on your blog. I always think of good things to say, but then erase them for fear of being judged or something.
First of all, I really like that you got it out. I'm sure you feel MUCH better now.
So, not sure if you know it, but I'm a walking open-book, hold absolutely nothing back and have nothing but honesty for everyone, almost to a fault. I will befriend many, but get close to next to none. I have been through such bullshit with people I have thought were my "close friends." My "mo" is that I would always rather have one friend I can trust with the whole world than 15 that are unreliable, unpredictable or untrusting. Just don't have the patience for it anymore. My friends that are in my heart have been there for good reason and will stay there forever. Not saying I won't make more good ones along the rest of this journey, but I will say that I am very cautious with who I actually go the FULL distance for anymore.
Jaded much?
nah……just wise…. : )
Friendships can be so difficult and fragile but will work with the right "sister friends." You're so sweet and endearing Liz! Loyalty's on my top five list of must have attributes. So glad you're sister's well, such a blessing indeed!
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being betrayed by a friend is the worst kind of pain.
i am sorry for you sweet girl
xoxo
girl with girl isnt always easy . you have to find the right person that really clicks with you in order to last long together .
manny gal pals end up frenemies because they compete to be the "queen B" .. its sad that the world is like this
Life is too short for the friendship drama.
You know we got your back.
Also: the world is a better place with you and Gabby in it. This makes me miss my sister. Damn.
I feel you sister. I think you and I are the same bitch/non bitch. I don't have time for fake, I am who I am take it or leave it but if I'm uncomfortable I clam up…i.e. bitch.
What I've come to realize is the people who can't get past that and get off on the fake-ness of others aren't worth my time. Also I couldn't bare to fake smile for one more second in my life ever.
this is sweet. i always that that once you are a friend of mine you are a friend my mine FOREVER.
so i liked the glued to the heart thing.
I am TERRIBLE about remembering birthdays, cards, etc., but you do the best you can and most true friends will see that. If not, well, life is too short
whew. you ready for a novel? haha:) girl ive been tehre too many times to count. i feel like we actually have a lot in common. ive often times been called snobby simply because i can be shy. it takes a ton for me to open up to people and i hate to toot my own horn, but i am the least snobby person. sometimes i just like to sit in the background and watch. and if i can tell we wont match up well i just wont let you in. simple as that. but the girls/guys i do care for and love, will forever hold a place in my heart and i would turn my world upside down for them. SO when those girls stab you in the bac (which i am so sorry you have to go through that) it really makes me want to kill someone. i had a good friend steal, lie, cheat on my best group of girlfriend and im not sure how i could ever forgive her. friendships are the toughest of relationships, yet if you find the good ones, they will change your life. i could rant on about this forever but to sum it up, you are an angel, you have a great heart and keep your head high beautiful. lots and lots of love. mwuah!
Hey Liz. I always enjoy your posts. They are witty, insightful, just fun to read. Hope you're having a great day. Take care. Cheers!
omg you're making me cry. I feel like a horrible friend most of the time …but the real friends accept the crazy and just take any time they can get. I tend to keep people at a distance …in fear of getting hurt …again. But it's probably better to not. ugh.
I love this: "I know this won't change anything, but I need to be heard. I need to say this."
Such a good post..this summer I lost my "best friend" of ten years after finding out all she did was talk about me behind my back to our other "friends". True friends are hard to find but I found mine and its amazing to have those kinds of people to lean on.
I'm happy you guys are celebrating your sister, sometimes we don't take enough time to enjoy the blessings we have been given!
girls can be tough to be friends with but i think you would be an amazing real life friend!! your posts inspire me and make me giggle and i need that on a daily basis. you have a zillion followers and are always willing to stop by to see my lil ole blog. and i love you a ton!!
shout outs to your sister!!
I can totally relate to you! When first meeting people, they often tell me later that they thought I was snobby!!!! I mean…they only JUST met me. I am often shy and quiet and reserved. But when people do get to know me they realize their first impression is wrong, thank goodness!
Good luck with your friend… She probably needs a little lovin'.
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love my friends
and this post! it's a reminder that we should not take friendships for granted
sorry about that sweetie…since i read your blog, it seems that there are quite a few girls who have hurt you…
you and your huge heart just don't deserve it…
chin up babe…you're so much better than them!!
xxx
ps didn't know about Gabby…i bet you're celebrating!!
You, my lovey, are amazing. I feel so blessed to have you in my life. In the short time that we have known each other, it has felt like years.
You have shown me what true friendship really is and fortunate is an inadequate word!
Hugs
xoxo
I don't think you're a snob. I think you're sassy and fun!:) Sorry your friend let you down. That's the worst feeling. I don't know why some of us girls can be so catty and unreliable. Hope she realizes what she's giving up. Friendship is too important. Because you care so much means you have a big heart.
I hope things work out!
You're a kind soul. And clearly a friend anyone would be lucky to have!
ps
Sorry for being so totally AWOL from your blog. I've got no excuse other than pure laziness and an obsession with watching TV and online shopping during the 2 hours of my day not spent commuting or working. I'll be better, I promise! I miss you!
wow..this post was amazing. you are awesome. seriously. i love the way you write..i love your honesty. i would totally be okay with having you as my friends
glad your twin is alive 
i would die without mine. i love how you said you were blessed to be born with a best friend. so true!
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