First of all-I am BEYOND honored to be featured on Dream Sequins today! Check it out! Dream Sequins is one of my favorite blogs and new friends, and it meant a lot that she asked me to be part of her Behind the Blog series! So since I’ve got fashion handled there for the day, let’s discuss some matters of the heart. Kinda.
Please don’t say I told you so, bloggy banana friends. I promised when I started this online dating nonsense I’d give you all the gory details. Kthxbai…here’s the story of the 4th…Do you know who “he” TOTALLY reminds me of? Justin Bobby from the Hills. So I am now going to refer to him as J.B.
As some of you know-the (judgemental vegan) J.B totally flaked on me yesterday.
On. The. 4th. Of . July.
Pause for reaction.
Back story-his band played at Universal Studios on Fri night. I didn’t go, because I thought it might be a lil stalkerific. He texts me after, he’s so excited to see me, etc…he’s going to a few bars in Hollywood with the band…his texts turn into drunken texts until 5am. I wake up, laugh at his texts, run to Starbucks, read some blogs…and wait for him to call/text me like he said he would. Nothing.
Now, I have A LOT of (fake ha) hair. (I didn’t name this blog Unbeweavable for nothin!) First date hair vs mellow hanging out with the girls/family hair are 2 different animals, right? Can I get an AMEN on that? I didn’t want to start fully getting ready until I heard from him.( Total date hair inspiration below, love it.)
I call and it goes straight to voicemail where I leave a very mellow, casual message. (Inner monologue-am I being punked? wtf?) 
I call and it goes straight to voicemail where I leave a very mellow, casual message. (Inner monologue-am I being punked? wtf?) 
I talk to some of you. We agree he is probably passed out from the previous evenings quasi rockstar shenanigans. We also agree it’s best not to get “first date ready” because it’s looking like I’ve got a waste of hair and make-up on my hands.
Fast forward- to 5ish, (we were supposed to hang out at 1.) Text-”Oh shit, I just woke up.”
Pause again for reaction.
By this time, I am on to other things for the evening, and that text, without an apology, got no response from me. Now here’s where things get complicated-er.
He calls me at 1030-I am home watching the Devil Wears Prada and hoping my dog doesn’t have a heart attack due to the fireworks.(Ms. Bella is not a fan.) 
Leaves VM “I really need to talk to you. Please call me.” etc, etc.
Leaves VM “I really need to talk to you. Please call me.” etc, etc. Pissed off Latina that I am, I call him. Gloves are on, ding ding!! He tells me that he was too nervous to meet me, because he really likes me and he panicked at the last minute because he got scared I wouldn’t like him in person. He says he realized what a big mistake he made, so sorry, blahblahblah, and is there anyway he can make it up to me this week?
This is more than just being nervous. He didn’t give me time to make other plans really, he just FLAKED. How rude! (Do you guys hear Michelle Tanner from Full House when I say that…or is that just me?)
We’ve since talked again and made plans…again. I like him. Am I making a big mistake? Don’t answer that. Everybody deserves a second chance, right? ( Answer that one.)
Disclaimer-I am not looking to be treated like crap, and I don’t put up with it. The only reason I would consider giving Justin Bobby another chance is because the dude gives me crazy butterflies, there is some kind of chemistry and let’s be real…he’s HOT. I will also never reserve a holiday for a guy I’ve never met. EVER. Life Lesson #786353 learned.
My weekend wasn’t a complete failure! I did a lot of this…
And this!
Looking forward to seeing your fabulous weekend re-caps! I hope we all have a great week ahead! XOXO, Liz
(images via allure.com, elle.com, google.com, ffffound)
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Thanks for visiting my blog! Yes, I did have a great weekend, I hope yours was well too
I like your blog, it fashion-packed!
OMG – when i read the title post..i was already dying laughing. fucking JB
Ok – serious stuff – maybe i am just a bitter cynical bitch but " nervous about meeting for the first time" my first thought bullshit. but then my bipolar kicks in and i think.." well that could be true since he keeps saying lets go BB"
HOWEVER – that does not excuse him for this rudeness. he definitely gets a " oh no you didnt motherfucker" I think if he REAAAAALLLY wanted to be with you on the 4th he wouldn't have bar hopped in the hwood. i mean the 5am texts are cute…but definitely a sign that he wasnt going to be waking up for the date…
I know you dig him… and he gives you butterflies..which gives me butterflies for you (__i__) (butt for those that dont know) If you decided to give JB another chance…shits on YOUR terms and if he fucks up… (which i hope he doesnt cuz you're like a school girl when u talk about him) he's dead in my books….and i will put him on blast. 100% no one messes with my lizzy boo! OK that was long and not edited LOVE YOU BITCH XOXOXOXOXO you always have THEEEE BEST POST.
Ok,thing is..he's a musician..and they almost always run on musician time. I've worked with so many of them..sux but they are not known for their time management skills-lol.
Second, that was not cool. For whatever reason. Chick you are gorg & smart as heck – but since you seem to really like him…I would give him ONE more chance NOT TO F-up and if he does – HE IS OUTTIE FOR SHIZ! LOL
You deserve the BEST, never forget it and should never have to settle for anything less darling.
Only problem is – he's a hottie – those fellas make us chicks do things we normally wouldn't – damn them!! LOL – Kisses L
Damn those hotties.
OMG! WTF?! no, I mean WWWWTTTFFFFFFFF!! Is he serious?! FLAKED! what the hell is he doing?! Nervous?! I dont know. I mean if he put a fake picture of himself up on his profile then I can understand why he is nervous. Ok. FINE. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, and just say give him a second chance because we all deserve 2nd chances. BUT, if he messes up the 2nd time again with this mumbo, he will so have moi to deal with, and he really better understand the ramifications of that! SO: in this case the 2nd time is the charm and NOT the 3rd time…. ohhh boy, now I'm nervous for the next one.gah.
Bella?! Don't be scared!!
wooohooo yay!! I am SO glad you went shopping! Always fun!!
ok. the rest is off line.
<3!!! IMEM
PEACE.
Oh my gosh- I had NO idea that you were going through all of this on Sat! First: you are absolutely SO funny and I love, love, love reading your posts! Second: Yes, date hair and family hair are wayyy different, therefore I am so happy you recognized signs that halted production on complete, full on date hair. Third: At first I was thinking "she needs to completely get rid of this a**" but after reading the entire thing, I think you are right: never allow a guy to get in the way of a holiday again, and just consider this one lesson learned.
You are amazing and again, LOVED this post
xoxo
this guy better run for the hills if he messes up…even i wouldnt want to mess with Iva…love you girl! xoxo
Way different from the rest but ATLEAST THAT FLEE BAG IS NOT GOING TO WASTE ANY OF YOUR TIME! He just helped you narrow other potential! You are beautiful and great. SHOPPING IS ALWAYS STRESS RELIEVER!
First of all Amen! and Second of all…how rude. Hello, boy get some brass ones, please! I hope you don't put too much stalk in this rocker but yes, you are right. Everyone deserves a second chance!
Shopping, how fun!
I spent my weekend watching movies(Public enemies..Johnny Depp! Yumm! and Transformers…amazing!)Fireworks and some painting. Nothing ground breaking but still fun!
Can't wait to hear how Mr. Chicken makes it up to you!
Kisses
ooohhh lady….calling your hairdos an animal made my morning…and you know what i said about bandboys…so ya'know i'd be all about the second chances…uggg..why are the ones that gives us the butterflies always the ones who toy with us?!? absolutely text me lady…
Justin Bobby haha good comparison!
I think his excuse was pretty pathetic but I also think you should give him another chance and meet up with him. However if he flakes on you again, time to kick JB to the curb!
Butterflies are sooo important to have so it is good you already have them! And he really must feel pretty shitty for ditching a fabulous girl like you! He is a lucky guy getting a second chance! Can't wait to hear about the date! When and where are you going and what will you wear? xxxx
ps. I totally heard michelle tanner!!
It's times like this that I'm so grateful that I am off the market,because I think I would've given the guy a piece of my mind (and not a very nice piece).But like you say,everyone deserves a second chance,but I'm pretty sure you will know if it's worth it or not,after you've met him in person.You don't sound like one of those helpless girls who lets a guy walk all over her (or at least flake on her twice).
So good luck for next time,and kick his ass by looking totally drop dead gorgeous!xoxo
I love reading the Dream Sequins interwiew with U…U are the best…
XoXo
Oh no, so sorry he flaked! Love the Justin Bobby comparrison. I don't blame you for giving him another chance. I'd probably do the same! At least you got a lot of shopping in during the weekend though. Always fun.
And, hello girl, it was STEPHANIE TANNER who would say "How rude"…Michelle's catchphrase was "you got it dude!!" OK, I am sort of embarassed that I know this…:)
Booo to flakes! I think his excuse is legit and the fact that he gives you butterflies is a real indicator. Not everyone in this lifetime has the ability to give us those! Hope it all works out and am looking forward to hearing about it!
hmmm second chance is fair, but maybe not a third chance. and if he is really is that cute then definitely deserves a second chance…but maybe play harder to get. a little bit of game playing hurt no-one right?!?!
I guess he can have a second chance but ONLY because he gives you crazy butterflies and NO THIRD chances because you are too fabulous for all that, you know what I'm sayin! Glad you had a good time otherwise!!
Yikes! It sounds like quite the misadventure this weekend. I'm so sorry. I couldn't help but laugh at certain thoughts. It sounded like a movie. I can understand possibly giving him a second chance. I wouldn't let that turn into a third, fourth & beyond if he keeps this up. Good luck. Have a great week.
It is such a great selection of pictures!!
i hate him already! but do what you gotta do.
I love how you are soo willing to share these things with us (: keep them coming!! much <3 xx
OK, my reactions consisted mostly of open-mouthed disbelief. I can't believe JB stood you up! However-if butterflies are present, you should totally give him a second shot (with only half-done hair perhaps? lol) …
At very least, he might be a good roll in the hay.
xoxo!
Hmm, I am a big believer in second chances. That being said, you're totally gorgeous and funny and could have your pick of dudes, so I think this guy should probably up his IQ and do something really sweet to make up for his very weird behavior this weekend.
he was going to a few bars with his band and didn't call you… hmm maybe he got drunk and forgot? It's still not a good excuse, but men are simple people and get side tracked easily. That's what I learned LOL. I think you should give him a 2nd shot
And congrats on being featured! You look lovely!
aww boo, what a huge dbag. if/when you do decide to give this guy a 2nd chance make sure he takes you out somewhere nice where you can rack up a bill where he pays
hahah. at least your holiday weekend wasnt a total bust, and im glad to hear you had a lovely group of lady friends to help you all along the way 
Love this post and pics. You handle all your (mis)adventures with such poise and grace! Congrats on your feature ~ will go check it out now!
xoxox,
CC
P.S. I am having a contest on my blog today so be sure to pop by!
Holy mother of sweet baby jesus. If he reminds you of Justin Bobby- he has my vote. You have to give him one more chance. I LOVE Justin Bobby and you know it's all wrong and he's 'bad' but you can't help it.
Anything for JB. Anything at all.
give him a second chance, but ONLY a second one. us beautiful girls tend to let even semi-cute guys walk on us for some reason…
what about the other guys, don't put all your eggs in one basket. always have a back up guy, er, i mean, plan.
Just the sight of Justin Bobby makes me want to kick him in the face (and when he opens his mouth it's even worse) so this guy's gonna have to do some serious convincing (aka treat you like a princess from here on out) for me to like him. But it's not me who needs to like him it's you, and it sounds like you do so I say give him ONE more chance. And he's lucky to get that! Good luck doll, you deserve nothing but the best! **Hugs**
i definitely don't blame you for giving him a second change i just wish he hadn't blown the first one.
anything's possible though and isn't that the fun of it?
Damn you JB! He could've just manned up and told you how he felt before the actual day you were supposed to hang out! I am always one for second chances and it seems like you think he's a good guy so offer him one more… but that's it:0)
Justin Bobby is such a flake on the show, too. Ahhhhhhhh. I'm always yelling at the TV "Don't fall for it, Audrina!"
And thanks for the interview. You rock!
yes nothing wrong with 2nd chances…first time shame on you second time shame on me….so if JB flakes again……PEACE OUT!!
Happy Monday EMarie!
Ok, that fool better work it to get back in your good graces!! On a side note the hubs did flake on me once. He never made that mistake again. Ah ha! Fabulous interview at Dream Sequins lady!!
Oh Liz, I'm sorry you got stood up! And I'm skeptical about this guy – "too nervous to meet you" raises a red flag for me. You deserve a guy who is so smitten with you that he can't wait to spend time with you and then never wants the date to end because he can't get enough of you… I hope this JB dude really gets what an angel you are for giving him a 2nd chance. And maybe it will all work out fine in the end. You never know, life is so funny like that…
And I say all of this with love!!
Hey sweets !
I hate him for totally flaking out on you BUT I love him for giving you butterflies
Have fun with Mr. Hotstuff and then, figure out if he's what you need.. just be happy, you deserve it.
People do deserve 2nd chances .. just not 3rd or 4th
Hope he figures it out quickly !!
I had a busy-busy-Bee weekend and I can't wait to share it with you.. hopefully, tonight, I find to blog it out!
Kisses xoxox
men and their excuses! ok, since i have nothing good to say about JB I'm keeping my mouth shut hehehe but, for the second chances – why not! good luck gorgeous!
I was already getting ready to cut some peoples in my own life…
And I just added JB to the list. *growls*
We have to learn our lessons every once and a while!!
I'm totally for another chance for Mr. JB… but only 1 more chance 
We all deserve a second chance (there are some exceptions of course)
I love how sweet you are for giving him a second chance. The lack of confidence and bad manners don't work for me though. Good luck Love!
Oooh I love the piece on Dream Sequins..you're such a good writer!
Oh love, so sorry he flaked! You didn't deserve that, but that is kind of you to give him a second chance…I don't blame you if you like him, I hope it goes well the second time around.
Looks like you had an amazing weekend – sometimes it is just great to kick back and relax and go to the beach! That is exactly what I did and it was sooo nice as well. Oh, and shopping…glad to see I wasn't the only one who spent a little $!
Have a great Monday! xoxo
ok so I've always felt too emberassed to say this outloud because no one I know seems to make faces with disagreement – but I've always kind of had a thing for Justin Bobby! haha What can I say? He cleans up so well and he's crazy funny!
NEVER reserve holidays for boys especially those you don't know well – totally agree with you on that one!
Do I think he deserves a second chance? Yes, why not? Have fun, but leave your gloves on! He has to work EXTRA hard now! He is mentally still on the curb. I mean it was totally shady of him. I say go have fun be your fabulous self!
Okay cuppycake, first off – Stephanie Tanner did the whole "how rude!" thang. I know this because my sister has been comparing me to her since I was out of the womb (which isn't entirely possible since this is my LITTLE sister we're talking about, but anyway)…
I can't wait to see your face on Wednesday. And it WILL happen this time. I know this because…I just do. We will talk, talk and then talk some more about…everything.
Love!
OoooooOOOOOooohh what a jackass.
Good for you for standing your ground and giving him sh*t about it girl!
Don't let him forget that one.
On the bright side, the night T and I met, he almost went home when (because my bff was begging me to go w/ her) I went and danced on the stage at Zanzibar (I know, classy).
He actually went outside to leave (thought I wasn't into him), then came back in cause another of our group just arrived.
And now we live together! So sometimes it works out
Good luck!
Ps: Girl crush totally mutual!
okay….we'll cover this later ,but ONE more chance. 1 more and ONLY because of your little butterflies. For that excuse to be legit, he totally could have given you a little more heads up. supposed to call at 11 and getting that stupid text at 5 is unacceptable!!!!
lol justin bobby and I totally read that as "how wude!"
Ugggh, I HATE flaky guys! I think it's my biggest dating pet peeve because you can't make plans, ever! I would kick him to the curb, but only because I get too annoyed.
Perfect, perfect post, darling!
FM~FP~AF
Ugh, how annoying. All of your plans got messed up bc of him! He better do something super big to make it up to you or else it's peace out J.B.!
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Ugh, while this guy might give you butterflies, I don't know…I HATE that this guy just stood you up, getting back to you at 5 p.m. and giving you 0 time to make other plans. I've been hungover before, and I've still managed to give time to let people make other plans.
Butttt, because of your butterflies, I guesss a second chance is in order – just be careful – you def don't want a real Justin Bobby on your hands
Grr so lame when guys do that!
P.S. Blogrolled you!
Bummer for being stood up, that's totally lame. I thought rockstars were supposed to be confident…maybe it's all an act. lol.
although I do see how meeting someone from online dating could be nerve-wracking, so I don't blame you for giving him another chance if you really like him. Remember to have fun, sweets!
glad u still had a wonderful weekend. go with your gut instinct, if you think it's right then he should get a second chance then.
I would give him another chance. He at least was honest. he could have told you some lie, like his great aunt died or something. At least he was honest about being scared to meet you.
But only give him one more chance. If he messes up again then pull the plug.
That guy who wrote "He's Just Not That Into You" (kind of sexist book, btw, and has nothing to do with my comment!) says "Don't waste the pretty." I heart you and think you'll do whatever is right for you, but I don't want you or Audrina to waste the pretty and you've got a lot of that! I'm still totally rooting for #3! It was great talking to you. You're the best… Can't effing wait to see you!!
Ok girlie…i read this very early this morning and had no time to comment. Truely honestly he we go: WTF is this boys problem. And yes i say BOY for a reason. Nervous my arse…he is good with his words. I've been here before many a times and it's hard to give them the benefit of the doubt. I always did…but in the end, i always got crushed. What is it with these BAD BOYS that get our hearts racing? We are smart, educated girls and yet we always seem to go for those with an edge to them. We want a challenge…a chase…something that makes us get butterflies. It's fun while it lasts, so this i say to you: You're single and BEAUTIFUL at that, so when he calls-say all the right words he wants to hear and then dangle the bait. Play the field and make him come to you. No more getting dolled up for no-shows. This BOY owes you some flowers!!!
I love that you made lemonade out of lemons by shopping furiously & drinking heavily! BRAVA!!! Hope you had a happy 4th…love the hair inspiration, sooooo pretty…don't waste it on lame-oh vegan JB!!!
I love all the advice you're getting! But honestly, I would say not to get too caught up in it yet and just meet him, especially since you sort of like him from the little you know. After the first meet if he flakes again than it's best to be getting over the whole thing. But it's still really new to jump to good or bad conclusions… maybe he really is shy?
I like giving the benefit of the doubt whenever possible.
darling, maybe another chance is worth it? who knows, go with your gut. i mean at least he was honest about the situation right??
hmmm…i am skeptical about this guy, but hey you only live once right. i say go for it. just keep your guard up, luv!
Just be careful. You're worth too much to get treated like crap.
And legit–I'm startin my matchmaker radar for you and Gab.
i had to google justin bobby bc i am SO out of touch with the world. Ya know there is something so mezermizing about a guy that doesnt take our shit. im not saying put up with it i'm saying have sex with him bc ppl like him make awesome lovers but terrible boyfriends.
mmmm… Rope me once, shame on you. Rope me twice, shame on me.
-By that I mean- You don't want to get stuck getting punked again. BUT- He COULD really have been nervous. Pretty boys can get nervous.
So- I'd say you should give him another chance, but don't go meet him anywhere…You don't want to be sitting there and order like 5 cups of coffee and have him not show up. Cuz- 5 cups of coffee can turn into 5 shots, and then 5 cupcaks, and then a tub of Cookie Dough Icing with ur bestie while crying and watching 'The Notebook'. It could go bad, so NO meeting up!! Make him come get you from a friend's house so ur WITH ur friend and they're there for support if he isn't there to get you eventually.
He could be totally worth it tho- I know quite a few people who maybe didn't deserve second chances on paper(including myself), but they were good people and worth the risk!
Hugs!!!
i think id say since its the first date..and you still have yet to meet him..to of course go for it. if he's a jackball..yes i said jackball..then at least you can find out for yourself in person..instead of never knowing. if he turns out to be like wess from the bachelorette tho…dump him while you can!! but hopefully the butterflies mean something and you will have an amazing time. no one deserves it more my darling! <3 you!
lizzie baby, glad you're totally on a roll with your pursuit of online dating. aw. im so sorry that it ended up being a disappointment the first time.. but yes, i DO believe in second chances. he might have had good reasons, right? just make sure though that when you do, you protect your own interests first. meaning let him really go out of his way to prove it to you the next time around!
much love
eden
craziness! but you tell it all with your trademark style and grace!
p.s. it was a great post about you on dream sequins!
I want to hit Justin Bobby (yours) really hard. He sounds like a liar and really insecure. Girl, as my old therapist says, 'red flags are everywhere!' Ha..you know I love you. This just sounds plain weird. You are totally better than that. Better than a real man being too scared to care about what you would think.
I hope you don't think I am a total bitch…I just care about you girl!
because I am too nice for my own good, I say, OK, give him ONE more chance. But if he screws that one up, kick mister Justin Bobby to the curb. I can't stand the real, as-seen-on-the-Hills JB so if your flakey date really does remind you of him in person, I say no more second chance, just run! haha. burps at the table and waxing nonsensical poetic are deal breakers
anyhoo, sorry to hear he kinda ruined your fourth but glad to hear you still got some good shopping and margarita (I think that's what's in the picture!) time in.
Life lesson #786353 learned? You are sooooo funny. Give him another chance…I believe him. But take care with those butterflies…
Much love: Evi
"nervous to meet you"….all I have to say about that one is BUUULLLLLLSSSHIIIIITTTT
I once met up with a guy I met online…granted we had mutual friends. He did show up when he said he would, still didn't work out though. I say go ahead and give him a second chance. If he flakes out again though forget him!!!!
Sucks that he was a jerk but I love that you're calling him Justin Bobby.
hmmm…I would try one more time. if he is a loser, you will known in a nanosecond.
xx
your weekend of shopping and drinking sounds pretty awesome.
Just found your blog via Blog Goggles! I'm can't wait to hear the next JB episode…he is hot and everyone deserves a 2nd chance!
If he really lives up to JB's legacy (i.e. saying awesome things like "Your friends don't fathom me" and then burping in your face) then he might be worth keeping around purely for entertainment value. I wish you luck! Seriously, this dating thing seems complicated!
This was such a good post and I loved the photos that you choose!
That sucks ahout JB. What's with guys. But I would at least go out with him once. He better make it up to you on your date and make it wonderful!!!
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Give him a second (and final) chance. And make sure you don't go into the date bitter or irritated – otherwise it won't really be a fair second chance. Guys are entitled to make mistakes, but if it happens more than once, it's not really a mistake, and you should give him the boot! Good luck girl!
My 2 cents. It is OK to give someone a 2nd chance, it is likely he really did overparty the night before. BUT, it is equally as likely that he is a musician flake so this may repeat again. However, since you're moving anyway just have fun and not take this too seriously. I mean if he gives you butterflies then he is worth at least 1 make-out session, no?
eh, not the smartest move on that boy's part. first impressions are everything, doesn't he know? I think that you are good to give him a second chance but if he F's up again, he needs to get a good kick in the arse.
i'm glad you had a good weekend anyway. And can I please have Vanessa's hair? I mean gorgeous! I might need to get some extensions now…
Hope you are having a fabulous day love!
Man we are sooooo sick of hearing things like this happening to wonderful, amazingly fierce females!! That being said U2's classic With or Without You is exactly how we feel about Bad Boys…Gawwwwd help us all!!!
Good luck though… =) *fingers crossed*
I wish my mom loved me enough to name me "Justin Bobby."
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